…Just Don’t Ever Call Them Your N***a Friends: Clown B’s BFF Gets A Reality Check


How I missed this one I’ll never know, but apparently Gwyneth Paltrow and her BFF’s The Toilet Trio AKA BeyJayYe were all over Paris this past weekend to watch JayYe perform their music off of Watch The Toilet and Gwynnie felt she was so down with it all that she tweeted to the world this:

Needless to say people were not feeling the tweet with the picture and sparked controversy that has everyone from Youtube commentators to The View taking sides. And in between that, The Dream, Toure, and Russell Simmons, hilariously referred to as the “Booty Bandits” on RWS by one poster, jumped to their “friend’s” defense saying Goopy was not being racist; merely referring to the song and people should basically get a grip (because we should all listen to the advice of sellouts). Q-Tip and Whoopi Goldberg, however, pointed out the moment she posted the title, with the added “for real”, AND in conjunction with a pic of JayYe on stage, it became more than just a song.

Goopy is the perfect example, along with folks like Zooey D. of New Girl notoriety and Katy Perry, of hipster racism: which is really all about ironic racism. You know, some of your white co-workers who “totally” aren’t repping “The Man” because they are so “down” with people of color they actually feel they can get away with certain racist things while PoC are just looking at them like, “Oh no you didn’t!”  I know Goops is like this. She went to Spence where hipster racism and traditional racism co-exist in perfect harmony the way a Spence uniform and Tory Burch flats do on a Blair Waldorf persona. And she is so obnoxious and pretentious that only she could tweet, “Hold up, it’s the title of the song!” without taking a moment to reflect and acknowledge that her judgement was erroneous and worth a mea culpa.

Two things that interest me: Gwyneth’s tweet proves what we’ve been saying all along in regard to her relationship with BeyJay: she’s in it for the cool hipster points and they are her lackeys trying to get to the real level of social climbing Gwyneth is already on. If Gwen was really down, she would have included herself in that picture since she associates with those “nigg*s” in Paris and has gone on record to claim them as BFFs. Certainly by extension she too is an N word in Paris right?

Except she’s not. And she knows this and so do the Toilet Trio and anyone who defends her indefensible posts. They know, but they don’t care because their agenda is to keep us all in niggerdom with their master’s hand all over the fields. Gwyneth would never think to include herself in a photo that says the N word because she, like many people only think of Blacks as such a thing. And though she let’s them entertain her and her ilk and takes pictures of them yachting around Croatia, she also knows that when she doesn’t want to associate herself with them she can walk away and act as if she never knew them, like not showing up at her girl Bey’s LONDON fashion show (in GP’s own neighborhood!) or being silent about Bey’s blackface controversy. Her status is not bothered in any way. She can leave “niggerdom” behind and it’s all gravy because she is merely an observer.

Which brings me to my second point of contention: Thus far, BeyJayYe have said nothing. And it’s funny because they are letting everyone else do the talking for them, thinking they can neutralize the situation by being silent. Sadly, it isn’t even their their rep that will be damaged the most even though silence means to people that they are okay with what went down and it forces one to wonder what type of “pass” they give their non-POC friends in private that they feel comfortable enough to carry that over into public discourse. No, it’s the black community whose reputation suffers no matter what side you’re on. We’ll either be complacent sellout coons for agreeing or whiny welfare queens who need to “get over it.” Division ensues, as planned, and the actions and reactions of a few individuals that are not on our level at all, become bigger and bigger.

But this also brings up the psychological paradox of the black community when it comes to calling out these people and their fuckery while simultaneously supporting it (one of the reasons why I loved the old Kanye so much because he touched on this in many of his songs). The media would like us to believe that blacks don’t support hip-hop anymore; that it is predominantly bought by white kids in suburbia. And to a point that’s true. Because what is being sold today, is the hip-hop which portrays us as ignorant, get money, slutty gangsta, idiots and the plan is to get as many people as possible to listen to this type of garbage to negatively reinforce to EVERYONE that all we’re good for is negativity and the talent to sing or rap about it. A lot of us won’t buy that mess and are selective. But a good portion of black folk continue to eat it up. We all have at one point in time, right (R. Kelly anyone)? Even as we struggle to maintain the positive black conscience people will be blasting their legally purchased Lil’ Wayne & Co’s CD at a party before they bump Lupe Fiasco and then have the nerve to talk about the rachet baby mama drama of Cousin Demitria. At the end of the day it’s still OUR faces selling it, our words and experiences creating it.

BeyJey have the right to broaden their fanbase but I believe as an artist, but particularly people of color, have a duty to think about what they are selling to other people whether they are reluctant representations of the community or not. Which is why Gwen can say that it’s their fault because that’s the song in the title and they call themselves the n word. But the truth is many of us will see that they don’t care about this controversy enough to check their friends and STILL hold these fools up as beacons of the community. Yes, we don’t take too kindly to folks like them using our culture in a negative way to perpetuate and sell to the non-black communities such an image for profit but it always comes with conditional reasoning. How successful are the entertainers/athletes in question? The more success one of our own achieves, the more we are willing to give them leeway. Next, how big a deal is the controversy in comparison to our paler counterpart’s human failures? “BeyJayYe don’t have to say anything. They didn’t make the tweet and honestly, Michael Richards is way worse!” Finally, by opening our mouths and saying that something is not right, how much flack are we willing to receive from everyone in taking a stand? Sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles.  And then you have some that just don’t give a fluck.

Whew! The Tour de France has nothing on the collective/individual black psyche.

 At the end of the day, none of these people will be truly affected by any of this controversy because I honestly don’t have that much faith in humanity as a whole to see that that what Gwynnie did was wrong. Nor do I really have the  inclination to deal with the tired, “But they say it in the song, so why can’t I?” type of people either. Because to me, even though the word is not used in my household, I am impartial to those in our community who use it for their “ownership” or “term of endearment” defense. Whatever. That still doesn’t mean I’m okay with anyone else saying it.
Here are a few different views on the subject and please get your comments on below!

WARNING some of these videos are explicit in language.




I STARTED THIS AT THE PART WHERE THEY TALK ABOUT GWYNETH. As, usual when it comes to anything Bey related, their stupidity is blistering.